Why women can't have male friends??

EZUIN

In my personal opinion, married women having a male “good” friend/s is unacceptable to a large extent. Again, this is only from my point of view and it’s up to individual/s to disagree with this or say otherwise. I have reasons for stating my statement. One of it is because it might lead to misunderstanding between both the wife and the husband. When female tends to get close to her male friends, chances of your husband getting insecure would be higher. Millions of thoughts will run into his mind, like ‘Am I not good enough for my wife that she needs another man to talk with?’, and etc. He will then get jealous and arguments start to emerge. This does not only happened to unstable married couple but also may also happen in couples who possess a strong bonding in their relationship.

Relate back to this article, ‘I’ve not had a single SMS from anyone of them since, and it’s a cause of some hurt, chagrin and sadness for me’ (paragraph 8). Reading this, set my marbles thinking. Why must she feel this way? She should instead be grateful for her male ‘friends’ for respecting her husband by moving a few distance from her and not think selfishly that now their ‘girlfriend’ is married.

My suggestion to Ms Tan if she wants to maintain the friend’s relationship with her male friends is, be open with her husband, and introduce her friends to him if her husband really wants to meet him, but otherwise continue as normal. And make sure you're marriage is healthy. “A friend loves at all times." by The Bible: Proverbs 17, 17. This quote is one of my favourite. To me, it means that a true friend will always be there thinking about you all the times, the one that never forgets you and will be always be there for you no matter what happen. It does not mean that when they (male friends) stop messaging you, it’s the end. They probably just want to give you some space for you and your husband to spend time.

Or, she could just get over her male friends and concentrate on her relationship with her husband and share common interest together.

In conclusion, it's not about 'restriction and control'. It is not that hard to fall in love with an opposite-gender friend. It happens all the times and this is where people find themselves having affairs. So you can rail against 'restrictions' all you want, but if you don't want to end up in trouble. You conduct yourself wisely.